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The Theory Of Stupidity

We Are Curious About You.  :-) 

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Most of us, growing up are told that we shouldn't use the word stupid ... but ... this video may change your mind on the meaning of that word and how it applies to us and those around us.   

How self aware are we?

This is the most amazing video!

So ... What Do You Think?

We can quickly see how other people are stupid / have moral issues, but not so much ourselves?
  • Why is Manage Up & Out so powerful? ~ We often watch something ... and actually think it's really good ... but then do not internalize it.  We do not think deeply about how what we learned could change our lives forever.   We do not TAKE ACTION on what we learned!  
  • What is Manage Up & Out? ~ After every video, white paper and/or mastermind call we encourage members to share with at least two others three things. 
  • 1. What did I LEARN.  
  • 2. What ACTION will I take.  
  • 3. What do I need to learn NEXT? 
  • What is an ARRT Mentor and two ARRT Buddies? ~ ARRT "Atomic Ripple Reaction Tree / Team" and is designed to take what we have learned and share it with the world.  Each individual is assigned one ARRT Mentor and 2 ARRT Buddies.  

The Tipping Point ... Dave

Do you ever have a "friend" in your life who ... well ... sucks the life right out of you, they are a taker but think they are a giver?
Now ... you do enjoy ... at times ... the weekly golf outings, the conversations how he brings up great things where you think ... "Man, I love this guy!" ... but there's always something there where you know this friend is ... well ... not a real friend ... I mean ... he is doing the best he can do, but ... wow ...you do at times wonder what's going on inside his mind and you wonder ... "What happened in his life ... or maybe never did happen ... to have his brain, his emotional intelligence to be so very low?
  • Awesome Friend ~ We're going to call this individual Dave because that's a great WM50+ name to give.  :-)
  • Very Devout Christian ~ Now for all the other Christian White Males Over 50 (CWM50+) please do think that xxxx has any issues with CWM50+.  He thinks they are amazing ... especially when they talk about Jesus and desiring to be led by the Holy Spirit.  
  • Golfing, weekly time together ... and then not?

I'm Curious ... My Questions

Questions in BOLD.   :-)

Mark -

You’ve warned me this might be coming.

I’m tapping out. Of everything. No phone calls, no emails, no webinars. No interaction.

Question ... "This feels like back in high school where ... it's very strange?"  

Last year I labeled you irresistible, like Christmas candy. In some ways, you still are. In my head too much, and not in a way that seems to be fruitful or life-giving. 

Question ... "Hmmm ... so we do a podcast for 30 minutes once a week ... and 'I'm in your head too much?"   This is even stranger than the first and second sentence?" 

What is fruitful and life-giving?   Does this apply? ==== > > > 

I’m either drained or relieved after engaging you. So…no more. I need to move on and it seems like cutting ties with you is the step I have to take.

Question ... "So we're just curious Dave.  Do you think that Mark may feel the same way to you as you do to him?   Why doesn't he do the same thing to you that you are doing to him?  Was there something in the PhD in educational phycology from Purdue that taught you to run away from things that challenged your mind?  Was it something that was in the Christian work you devoted yourself for years to, that caused you to run from things that challenge / stimulate your mind?  

This has been a decision I’ve delayed for months. You have gifts that I admire, but your direction isn’t exactly mine and I don’t like fighting your pull of influence in my life.

Question ... "Is this the PhD talking where you somehow rationalize your decision because you have a feeling for months?  You share ... a LOT about how you are seeking to be like Jesus and be lead by the Holy Spirit.  Is this really how you think that Jesus is like?  Do you know that when you talk so much about Jesus that people may actually think that this is true and you may cause someone to be a stumbling block?  Do you tend to do this in many areas of your life ... where you TALK a lot but your DO ... well is far less?"  

I’m sorry at lots of levels, including this unkind way of disconnecting. It’s not courageous, but it will have to do.

Questions ... 
"So ... just so we're clear. You are saying you are sorry and you are saying you are unkind and you are saying you are not courageous." but yet you still do it?

Do you think that maybe this type of thinking ... may have permeated your heart and soul so much that the only people you feel comfortable around are people who are ... well ... you know ... just like you?

Hmmm ... maybe ... just maybe Dave have been one of the worst friends in the world and maybe this friend, you are doing this to, may be one of the most loving friends in the world?"

I sincerely wish the best for you, and that will include praying for you and your family as the Lord brings you to mind. But please don’t reach out or try to engage me.

Questions ...
"So when you say you know you are being unkind and not courageous but then you wish the best and you are then going to pray for you and your family ... when 'the Lord' brings you to mind?  

So do all CWM50+ do this where they do unkind (hurtful) things and lack courage and then say they are going to pray about it?  Is that supposed to make the person feel good ... or are your words supposed to make you feel good?   

Do you think it will work?"

Dave

We wish ... that this one situation was unusual for CWM50+, but sadly to say, it's not.  

Our heart should hurt for the CWM50+ as they SAY a lot of things ... but their hearts seem to reveal something very different.  

A famous person once said ... "God offends the mind to reveal the heart."  

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Tapping out

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xxxx -

You’ve warned me this might be coming.

I’m tapping out. Of everything. No phone calls, no emails, no webinars. No interaction.

Last year I labeled you irresistible, like Christmas candy. In some ways, you still are. In my head too much, and not in a way that seems to be fruitful or life-giving. I’m either drained or relieved after engaging you. So…no more. I need to move on and it seems like cutting ties with you is the step I have to take.

This has been a decision I’ve delayed for months. You have gifts that I admire, but your direction isn’t exactly mine and I don’t like fighting your pull of influence in my life.

I’m sorry at lots of levels, including this unkind way of disconnecting. It’s not courageous, but it will have to do.

I sincerely wish the best for you, and that will include praying for you and your family as the Lord brings you to mind. But please don’t reach out or try to engage me.

Dave

From the book ... "You Are The Placebo"

“Usually when people step into the river of change, that void between the old self and the new self is so uncomfortable that they immediately slip back into their old selves again. They unconsciously think, This doesn’t feel right, I’m uncomfortable, or I don’t feel so good. The moment they accept that thought, or autosuggestion (and become suggestible to their own thoughts), they will unconsciously make the same old choices again that will lead to the progression of the same habitual behaviors to create the same experience that automatically endorse the same emotions and feelings. And then they say to themselves, This feels right. But what they really mean is that this feels familiar.” 
So we're curious ... "Is it more common than not that Christian White Males Over 50 (CWM50+) tend to like things that feel good and familiar and will run away from those things which challenge them mentally?"
It's a serious and fair question!
It's always interesting to hear people ask ... 
"What's the motivation for sharing?"   
It seems ... that maybe the CWM50+ may not be very self aware and may not see themselves for who they really are?

It seems ... that they have learned to game the system and SAY things rather than DO things and ... hmmm ... we wonder if that may be one of the things that is most wrong with America and the world? 
It seems ... that maybe the CWM50+ maybe be mostly about looking and feeling good.
Maybe ... sharing this with all the CWM50+ and asking them their thoughts may be the first step?

Maybe ... learning to SEE when CWM50+ do this type of thing and call it out for what it is, might help them to see them for who they are?

Maybe ... be sharing publicly ... the CWM50+ might decide to be more self aware and not TALK humility but actually BE humble?

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What Is Your Personality?

Hmmm ... this is interesting!

So ... have you ever been part of a networking or mastermind group and did not feel you really gained a lot of value from participating?  
We approach mastermind groups in the most fascinating way by knowing one another's personalities so we can be helped and help others.

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We will get so much more from this group when we do this simple exercise ... AND ... we will be able to connect our vision to others.

Do you need help with follow through, motivation, organization or consistency?

It's alright ... Most of us do!  :-)

Most of us belong to Engineered CLARITY Community (EC2) because of all the resources provided, the mentor and buddies we are assigned who help us gain extreme clarity, improve our follow through, motivation, organization and consistency.  :-)

"We can't solve problems by using the same kind of thinking we used when we created them."

~ Albert Einstein ~

Notes From Others ... 

Do NOT cheat yourself on improving your EQ and "just take these notes from others."  Watch the video write out your thoughts BEFORE you read what others are thinking.  

  • I'm stupid ... do not even know it!  We often think others are stupid but fail to see it in ourselves.  Good to apply the mirror principle and see whatever we see in others there some of that in ourselves.  Until we realize that, probably good to be cautious in sharing with others before we self examine.   
  • People around me are stupid ... ~ Like minded people tend to gather around other people like themselves.   This is not bad in and of itself but if we're just around people who think like we do, we will have this 
  • I never realized ... or even thought that stupid was a "moral" thing!   How crazy, cool and amazing is that?  
  • Hmmm ... maybe ... this is what I have been looking to for years?!?!  Why does a company / organization start out "good" with a great cause, intention and vision and when it gets large, it seems to become internally focused and then self destruct?
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